Tough talk

"The Infinite Recognition" (1963) by Rene Magritte

“I helped him to stand. He took my arm. And he began walking. I’d not seen him make it farther than across a living room in half a year. But walking slowly, his feet shuffling, he went the length of a basketball floor and then up a flight of twenty concrete steps to join the families in the stands. I was almost overcome just witnessing it. . . . Here is what having a hard conversation can do” (230)

Gawande offers his father’s remarkable trek across the gymnasium floor as an example of the value of a “hard conversation.”

Can you describe a hard conversation that you have had that either turned out for the best OR that led to a disaster?

Hope and Fear

“One has to decide whether one’s fears or one’s hopes are what should matter the most” (232).

"Between Hope and Fear" (1876) by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema

Can you describe occasions in your life when you have been motivated by a fear or failure and another in which you have been motivated by the hope of success?

What kind of motivation is more common in your life?

In what ways have your life experience played a role in determining the kind of motivation that is more common in your life?

Peaks and valleys

“In the end, people don’t view their life as merely the average of all of its moments—which, after all, is mostly nothing much plus some sleep. For human beings, life is meaningful because it is a story. A story has a sense of a whole, and its arc is determined by the significant moments, the ones where something happens . . . Unlike your experiencing self—which is absorbed in the moment—your remembering self is attempting to recognize not only the peaks of joys and valleys of misery but also how the story works out as a whole. . . . in stories, endings matter” (238-239).

"Dead End" (1980)  by Jacek Yerka

If the meaning of a life is revealed not through an accurate account of your day-to-day experience, but through a narrative that dwells on significant moments, should we focus more on achieving great things than we do on simple pleasures?

If the stories we tell have a significant effect on our life experience, should we make a conscious effort to talk about our lives in terms of peaks of joys and less in terms of valleys of misery?

The Being Mortal Sandbox

"Children Playing on the Beach, 1884" (1884) by Mary Cassatt

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The Being Mortal Takeaway

"Taking up the Net" (1881) by Thomas Eakins

So you've read Being Mortal now. In 100 words or less, identify the part of the book the is most likely to stick with you the longest.

What's your take away?

Don't answer this question until you've finished reading the entire book.

Welcome aboard, Honors Entering Class of 2015!

"Pushing Off the Boat at Sea Bright, New Jersey" (1887) by Louis Comfort Tiffany.

So you're officially a college student.  And not just that, you are joining the ECU Honors Program. Congratulations and welcome aboard!  You've officially arrived.  It's a brave new world.   But fear not: signs of your success are already apparent.  If you're reading this, then you made it to ECU's Honors Enduring Questions website.  That's step #1.  And better yet (step #2), you already have the book for the summer reading (You do, right?  If not, stop reading this right now, yes now, go get your book--Atul Gawande's Being Mortal--and then start reading this again.  Seriously.).  After taking a peek at the questions on this website (click here;  yes there ARE a lot.  Don't panic!), you may be thinking to yourself (that's called reflection, and good, too, by the way)--"What exactly am I supposed to do here?"  These questions  have a simple purpose.  They are designed to help you engage with the text (and the rest of us).  And since we certainly don't want you to feel uncertain or to approach the questions "willy-nilly" (a fun way to say without structure or system), click here to see the rules.  See you on the next post!

Surrogate armies? Mercenary mothers?

Click here to read a debate published in The New York Times (Oct. 26, 2014) in response to the question:  " . . . does the government need to do more to change the way it uses private security contractors who do jobs soldiers once did?"

Readers of Michael Sandel's Justice: What's the Right Thing to Do? will recognize some of the contours of this debate from Sandel's discussion of it in chapter four:  "Hired Help: Markets and Morals."

Also discussed in chapter four: surrogate motherhood.  Click here to read (or listen to) a feature on National Public Radio (Oct. 22, 2014) about some of the ethical and legal challenges faced by the surrogacy business.