I've had similar experiences of considering accepting myself, but I don't think it's as simple as deciding to accept yourself. A person has likes and dislikes, which don't easily change. You can't decide suddenly that you like homework, for example, if you never liked it to begin with. -Byron
I think accepting yourself is liberating. I've never compared my view myself to nature, but I have compared how I view other people.I tend to be lenient with my expectations with others but very strict with what I expect from myself. I think to move away from that mindset is realizing my mistakes, learning from them, and knowing everyone struggles. I think as long as you're moving forward self acceptance won't become complacency. -Jenna Whitehead
In this chapter, I feel the point is being made that there is freedom in letting go of expectations. Being able to look at yourself how humans look at nature; beautiful not because it is perfect, but beautiful because it is not perfect. Happiness follows the freedom of forgetting expectations others have set for you.
When someone is expected to be a certain way all the time, their ability to communicate how they really feel becomes weakened, as they feel they'll let down those who hold them to that standard. Expecting that things will always stay the same (good or bad) leads to a life full of rumination because, in the end, everything will change as you continue to evolve. With mental and physical growth comes a new outlook on life, as new experiences are introduced with each passing year. However, limiting yourself to one acceptable outcome discourages that mindset change, allowing for a stunted viewpoint of your situation. Nora’s relationship with her parents exemplifies these observations. With parents who each had different wishes for how her life should go, Nora was unable to find her own path, as she was constantly on a path for their approval. In the end, she realized that she should’ve tried to accept herself instead of searching for outward acceptance. I believe liberation in its truest form comes with realizing that not everyone can be pleased; making yourself proud of the life you lead is all that truly matters.
The way Nora felt about herself was very restrictive. She was negative about her life and her experiences. She always assumed people thought the worst of her, and she was so caught up in those thoughts that it restricted her from becoming any of her aspirations she ever had or following any of her dreams. I am sure we all can understand and relate in some form to that feeling. In this short chapter she also imagines how it would be to accept herself, and in doing so felt liberation and freedom. If we all did the same we would feel much better about ourselves and have a more positive outlook on the life we all live. The world would have a completely different feeling than it does now because almost all of us are not accepting in that way. If we all simply accepted each other the world would be better. I think that the main difference in feeling complacent and liberating when it comes to accepting yourselves is this: if you only accept yourself it will be complacent but if you accept yourself and the world around you then you will experience liberation. It will be freeing. -Charlie Rogers
I've had similar experiences of considering accepting myself, but I don't think it's as simple as deciding to accept yourself. A person has likes and dislikes, which don't easily change. You can't decide suddenly that you like homework, for example, if you never liked it to begin with.
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I think accepting yourself is liberating. I've never compared my view myself to nature, but I have compared how I view other people.I tend to be lenient with my expectations with others but very strict with what I expect from myself. I think to move away from that mindset is realizing my mistakes, learning from them, and knowing everyone struggles. I think as long as you're moving forward self acceptance won't become complacency.
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In this chapter, I feel the point is being made that there is freedom in letting go of expectations.
ReplyDeleteBeing able to look at yourself how humans look at nature; beautiful not because it is perfect, but beautiful because it is not perfect. Happiness follows the freedom of forgetting expectations others have set for you.
When someone is expected to be a certain way all the time, their ability to communicate how they really feel becomes weakened, as they feel they'll let down those who hold them to that standard. Expecting that things will always stay the same (good or bad) leads to a life full of rumination because, in the end, everything will change as you continue to evolve. With mental and physical growth comes a new outlook on life, as new experiences are introduced with each passing year. However, limiting yourself to one acceptable outcome discourages that mindset change, allowing for a stunted viewpoint of your situation. Nora’s relationship with her parents exemplifies these observations. With parents who each had different wishes for how her life should go, Nora was unable to find her own path, as she was constantly on a path for their approval. In the end, she realized that she should’ve tried to accept herself instead of searching for outward acceptance. I believe liberation in its truest form comes with realizing that not everyone can be pleased; making yourself proud of the life you lead is all that truly matters.
ReplyDeleteThe way Nora felt about herself was very restrictive. She was negative about her life and her experiences. She always assumed people thought the worst of her, and she was so caught up in those thoughts that it restricted her from becoming any of her aspirations she ever had or following any of her dreams. I am sure we all can understand and relate in some form to that feeling. In this short chapter she also imagines how it would be to accept herself, and in doing so felt liberation and freedom. If we all did the same we would feel much better about ourselves and have a more positive outlook on the life we all live. The world would have a completely different feeling than it does now because almost all of us are not accepting in that way. If we all simply accepted each other the world would be better.
ReplyDeleteI think that the main difference in feeling complacent and liberating when it comes to accepting yourselves is this: if you only accept yourself it will be complacent but if you accept yourself and the world around you then you will experience liberation. It will be freeing.
-Charlie Rogers