I think it's a fair point. Sometimes you don't get what you want but you get what you need and that fulfills the want, it might not always happen that way though. -Byron
When Mrs. Elm talks about the difference between a “want problem” and a “lack problem”, I think she made some very good points. We go through every day saying there are certain things we want. The thing about life is that we are not always guaranteed to get everything we want, and that can sometimes hurt our feelings. More times than not, life will find a way to get us what we need even if it is not what we wanted. There were many lives that Nora did not necessarily want, but when Mrs. Elm said this, it allowed Nora to think of what she may have needed. There were things Nora lacked in her main life that were fulfilled in other lives, but she did not even realize it sometimes because these were not things she necessarily wanted off the top of her head. Carly Hendrickson
Human nature is such that negatives often are more impactful or powerful than positives. What Mrs. Elm seems to state here is that lack is a relatively constant yet amorphous notion that crystallizes into specific "wants" but remains at the heart of these individual desires. Personal experience has led to sympathy for this thesis for me; it is often the case, I have found, that so long as a perception of lack can be filled with something meaningful (a positive nullifying a negative), strong desires can be assuaged without addressing the specifics of those desires. This is not universal, but Mrs. Elm does not assert that a "lack problem" is always at the heart of a perceived problem of having strong desires. She merely suggests that a feeling of strong absence is enough to manifest discontentment, which seems logical and acceptable and, though it does not immediately help Nora, may contribute to her ultimate desire to live and fill in that void herself rather than surf many possible realities in which individual "wants" are fulfilled.
What I made of Mrs. Elm was that sometimes it is not always a "want" we want. It could just be a lack of what needs to be there. Nora, in a sense, had a lack of life and living in the only life she ever knew of having. Nora does not want to actually die in my eyes, but she craves a better, more fulfilling life that she never got to experience. She was depressed and in a dead end job living day to day, not fulfilling or pursuing a dream. - Cody Miller
I think “Want” and “Lack” is very insightful. When someone says, “I want money” most people’s response is “Why?” This isn’t because we really care about a specific item or what-have-you, but instead we think “Why do you need money?”
Wants and needs are interesting to think about. Someone “wants” a happy life, but they don’t think about what they “lack” to make it happy; and like what Mrs. Elm says in the novel “Sometimes when we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely.” -CWR
I think it's a fair point. Sometimes you don't get what you want but you get what you need and that fulfills the want, it might not always happen that way though.
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I also agree with both Byron and Abigayle. We wont always get what we want or need in life and that is completely okay.
DeleteWhen Mrs. Elm talks about the difference between a “want problem” and a “lack problem”, I think she made some very good points. We go through every day saying there are certain things we want. The thing about life is that we are not always guaranteed to get everything we want, and that can sometimes hurt our feelings. More times than not, life will find a way to get us what we need even if it is not what we wanted. There were many lives that Nora did not necessarily want, but when Mrs. Elm said this, it allowed Nora to think of what she may have needed. There were things Nora lacked in her main life that were fulfilled in other lives, but she did not even realize it sometimes because these were not things she necessarily wanted off the top of her head.
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Human nature is such that negatives often are more impactful or powerful than positives. What Mrs. Elm seems to state here is that lack is a relatively constant yet amorphous notion that crystallizes into specific "wants" but remains at the heart of these individual desires. Personal experience has led to sympathy for this thesis for me; it is often the case, I have found, that so long as a perception of lack can be filled with something meaningful (a positive nullifying a negative), strong desires can be assuaged without addressing the specifics of those desires. This is not universal, but Mrs. Elm does not assert that a "lack problem" is always at the heart of a perceived problem of having strong desires. She merely suggests that a feeling of strong absence is enough to manifest discontentment, which seems logical and acceptable and, though it does not immediately help Nora, may contribute to her ultimate desire to live and fill in that void herself rather than surf many possible realities in which individual "wants" are fulfilled.
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DeleteWhat I made of Mrs. Elm was that sometimes it is not always a "want" we want. It could just be a lack of what needs to be there. Nora, in a sense, had a lack of life and living in the only life she ever knew of having. Nora does not want to actually die in my eyes, but she craves a better, more fulfilling life that she never got to experience. She was depressed and in a dead end job living day to day, not fulfilling or pursuing a dream. - Cody Miller
ReplyDeleteI think “Want” and “Lack” is very insightful. When someone says, “I want money” most people’s response is “Why?” This isn’t because we really care about a specific item or what-have-you, but instead we think “Why do you need money?”
ReplyDeleteWants and needs are interesting to think about. Someone “wants” a happy life, but they don’t think about what they “lack” to make it happy; and like what Mrs. Elm says in the novel “Sometimes when we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely.”
-CWR