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How does Nora’s mother’s death and the wedding help you understand Nora more?
Have you had external events shape life decisions you have made? Have you ever seen it afect the life decisions of a friend or family member? What advice would you give to someone in a similar situation?
I completely understand why she didn't want to get married so soon after her mother passing, but I can only guess why she left Dan altogether rather than postpone the wedding. I think nothing should come before your mental health, and you should take time off to grieve, but it can't be permanent.
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I understand that Nora is very thoughtful about what she does in her life. She compares her own romantic life with her mother's, swearing to never become like her parents because she believes it will end the same way. At the same time, she is heavily driven by her emotions. She is unable to follow through with her wedding plans because of her emotional state after her mother's death. I think avoiding the wedding was better for her mental health than forcing herself into a marriage she was not sure about.
ReplyDeleteI have not had external events shape my decisions, but I have seen it affect people close to me. If I could offer my advice, I would say to allow yourself to focus on your own mental well-being. A lot of people avoid their emotions to try and appear normal after a significant event, but it can often do more harm than good.
-Denna Bussinger
I really like how you describe Nora and her thought process. I agree, I don't think she should've married Dan while in that state of mind.
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Nora's mothers death and her wedding help me understand her more because it had to of been hard to lose her mother and still be thinking of a wedding. It's even mentioned that she tried to push the wedding back but it never was, therefore she dropped the wedding completely. Yes, I have had external events shape my life decisions and my families life decisions. The advice I would give is to really sit and think about the decision. For me, the life decision I made was for the better and it resulted in more happiness and relief. I understand this is not always the case but I have thoroughly enjoyed the choice I made compared to where I could be now.
ReplyDeleteNora's mother died three months before the wedding between her and Dan. The grief and depression Nora faced was enough to influence her decision and ultimately pull out of the wedding instead of delaying the date it occured. It helps us to understand her because it shows that she was trying to put her mental health first before she also threw her problems onto someone else to try and deal with them. I have had external events influence my life and it played a huge role in my mother's life. The advice I would give after witnessing it myself is to do what you feel is best for your life; put your health to a high-enough standard to where you can live peacefully and comfortably with your thoughts and feelings.
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DeleteI think the trauma's that Nora has experienced in her life absolutely emphasize and help understand her heart more and what she feels so deeply. Not just those things but also the effect of loosing a job, all these things isolated her from love in general. Losing your mom is something that is felt so deeply because as a child is born from their mother's womb, there is such a deeper connection. When Nora lost I cannot imagine what that feels like to know the first person to love you when knowing your existence is gone. Then to ending her relationship a few days before her wedding to someone she thought she loved and loved her. It all adds up to a darkness in your heart that explains so much to what she goes through. I think the biggest decision I've made that has shaped so much of my life is faith in Christ. It has absolutely effected the people around me because of who I am through my faith and the way I chose to live my life through it. I think decisions like this take so much thought because it's an alternating way of choosing to live your life, and that changes so much and how people see you. The biggest question you ask yourself is whether it is worth it or not.
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