“Personalizing” is definitely my primary thinking trap within my life. This occurs multiple times a day. I’m constantly over-analyzing situations, assuming something I’ve said or done has caused an event to take place. I constantly overthink what it is I’m wanting to say, and the majority of the time I decide to not say anything at all.
I can totally understand the overthinking when it comes to talking. I often overthink what I am going to say and how people are going to preceive it. I either end up just staying quiet or lose the opportunity to say anything at all because I took too long overthinking.
My dominant thinking trap is ‘should-must statements.” I constantly tell myself that I should be feeling a certain way, and that I must be doing certain things because I think that is what is expected of me. I often let it get to the point where it overwhelms me, and I start to shut down. It often happens when I think I am expected to feel and act in a specific way to a certain person or in a particular scenario or situation. After reading “U Thrive” it allowed me to realize that this happens quite often in my thinking, and it is now something I am actively working to minimize.
I think for me, it would have to be "Catastrophizing". I tend to look at a situation and only think of the worst possible outcome, instead of the many other outcomes that might happen.
"Personalizing" has no doubt taken a stand in my life. I am consistently making up in my head that anytime anyone is angry or says the wrong thing, that I did something to make them mad. I tend to lean towards the notion that my actions have a bigger impact on other people and things than they actually do. This is particularly recurrent in my relationships.
The most common thinking trap I struggle with black and white thinking. I have a hard time making decisions in life without solely looking at the downsides or my own shortcomings. Even though I graduated high school with honors and a 3.9 GPA, the one B I got in freshman history still hurts to look at, even 4 years later. All I can think of is how many prestigious programs and scholarships I was locked out of because of it. Even though it weighed on me for several years, getting a B helped me in the long run. I learned how to succeed in my classes, how to organize and what organization worked best for me, and how to prepare for the future and my long-term success. If I would have made an A in that class, there is no telling how the last 4 years of my life would have turned out. Maybe it would have been far better than where I am today, but I think that it would have caused an even bigger problem down the line. I may have done bad in a science class and chose not to go to college for a STEM degree, or maybe I would not go to college at all. I could have ended up lost with no sense of my direction or my future. I have been trying to escape this thinking trap for a while now, and I can now look back at all the times I 'failed' and see how those mistakes allowed me to grow as a person.
The trap that often pops up in my mind would be catastrophizing. Just as the book described, I often believe that “the only possible outcome is the worst thing imaginable.” I let myself go down into a hole of thoughts of overthinking that this one incident or situation would lead to the worst possible thing. In reality, it’s not that deep. The biggest example I have for this was when I found out I would be having surgery on my knee. I knew that going through it would only help me, yet I imagined that I would never walk again, or that if I did I’d have a recovery time of two years, or that something wrong would happen while I was under anesthesia. None of this happened. The only option left to fix my knee was surgery. I felt as if it was the end of me and I would never be running again. Again, that wasn’t the case. I often find myself falling into this specific trap very often.
I am guilty of "jumping to conclusions", which I think that many people are. It is a result of overthinking. There are many instances where I jump to conclusions over stupid minute things. I think like "oh they are going to think I am weird and not like me now" when doing pretty much anything around people. Or even when I see an assignment and I am like "there's no way I am going to be able to do this". Fortunately, my style of overthinking circles back to the realistic side of "people don't actually pay that much attention or care" and "I'll just get it done eventually like every other assignment"...
I definitely have a problem with mind-reading. I am terrible at reading body language and facial expressions and basically anything that isn't a big toothy smile means somebody is upset in my mind.
“Personalizing” is definitely my primary thinking trap within my life. This occurs multiple times a day. I’m constantly over-analyzing situations, assuming something I’ve said or done has caused an event to take place. I constantly overthink what it is I’m wanting to say, and the majority of the time I decide to not say anything at all.
ReplyDeleteI can totally understand the overthinking when it comes to talking. I often overthink what I am going to say and how people are going to preceive it. I either end up just staying quiet or lose the opportunity to say anything at all because I took too long overthinking.
DeleteMy dominant thinking trap is ‘should-must statements.” I constantly tell myself that I should be feeling a certain way, and that I must be doing certain things because I think that is what is expected of me. I often let it get to the point where it overwhelms me, and I start to shut down. It often happens when I think I am expected to feel and act in a specific way to a certain person or in a particular scenario or situation. After reading “U Thrive” it allowed me to realize that this happens quite often in my thinking, and it is now something I am actively working to minimize.
ReplyDeleteI think for me, it would have to be "Catastrophizing". I tend to look at a situation and only think of the worst possible outcome, instead of the many other outcomes that might happen.
ReplyDelete"Personalizing" has no doubt taken a stand in my life. I am consistently making up in my head that anytime anyone is angry or says the wrong thing, that I did something to make them mad. I tend to lean towards the notion that my actions have a bigger impact on other people and things than they actually do. This is particularly recurrent in my relationships.
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ReplyDeleteThe most common thinking trap I struggle with black and white thinking. I have a hard time making decisions in life without solely looking at the downsides or my own shortcomings.
Even though I graduated high school with honors and a 3.9 GPA, the one B I got in freshman history still hurts to look at, even 4 years later. All I can think of is how many prestigious programs and scholarships I was locked out of because of it.
Even though it weighed on me for several years, getting a B helped me in the long run. I learned how to succeed in my classes, how to organize and what organization worked best for me, and how to prepare for the future and my long-term success.
If I would have made an A in that class, there is no telling how the last 4 years of my life would have turned out. Maybe it would have been far better than where I am today, but I think that it would have caused an even bigger problem down the line. I may have done bad in a science class and chose not to go to college for a STEM degree, or maybe I would not go to college at all. I could have ended up lost with no sense of my direction or my future.
I have been trying to escape this thinking trap for a while now, and I can now look back at all the times I 'failed' and see how those mistakes allowed me to grow as a person.
The trap that often pops up in my mind would be catastrophizing. Just as the book described, I often believe that “the only possible outcome is the worst thing imaginable.”
ReplyDeleteI let myself go down into a hole of thoughts of overthinking that this one incident or situation would lead to the worst possible thing. In reality, it’s not that deep.
The biggest example I have for this was when I found out I would be having surgery on my knee. I knew that going through it would only help me, yet I imagined that I would never walk again, or that if I did I’d have a recovery time of two years, or that something wrong would happen while I was under anesthesia. None of this happened. The only option left to fix my knee was surgery. I felt as if it was the end of me and I would never be running again. Again, that wasn’t the case. I often find myself falling into this specific trap very often.
I am guilty of "jumping to conclusions", which I think that many people are. It is a result of overthinking. There are many instances where I jump to conclusions over stupid minute things. I think like "oh they are going to think I am weird and not like me now" when doing pretty much anything around people. Or even when I see an assignment and I am like "there's no way I am going to be able to do this". Fortunately, my style of overthinking circles back to the realistic side of "people don't actually pay that much attention or care" and "I'll just get it done eventually like every other assignment"...
ReplyDeleteI definitely have a problem with mind-reading. I am terrible at reading body language and facial expressions and basically anything that isn't a big toothy smile means somebody is upset in my mind.
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